Archive for September, 2009

These are a few of our favorite kissing quotes from some famous – and not so famous people.   Amazing how important kissing is in our world.

Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.  ~Albert Einstein

A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.  ~Ingrid Bergman

 People who throw kisses are mighty hopelessly lazy. ~Bob Hope

A kiss without a hug is like a flower without the fragrance. ~Proverb

 Never a lip is curved with pain
That can’t be kissed into smile again.
                                      ~Bret Harte

Kisses are like tears, the only real ones are the ones you can’t hold back.   ~Author Unknown

Kisses kept are wasted;
Love is to be tasted.
There are some you love, I know;
Be not loathe to tell them so.
Lips go dry and eyes grow wet
Waiting to be warmly met.
Keep them not in waiting yet;
Kisses kept are wasted.
~Edmund Vance Cooke

 If you are ever in doubt as to whether to kiss a pretty girl, always give her the benefit of the doubt.  ~Thomas Carlyle

I kissed my first girl and smoked my first cigarette on the same day.  I haven’t had time for tobacco since.  ~Arturo Toscanini

Is not a kiss the very autograph of love? ~Henry Finck

How did it happen that their lips came together?  How does it happen that birds sing, that snow melts, that the rose unfolds, that the dawn whitens behind the stark shapes of trees on the quivering summit of the hill?  A kiss, and all was said. ~Victor Hugo

“You may conquer with the sword, but you are conquered by a kiss.”
~Daniel Heinsius

There are more where these came from – and we’ll keep adding.   Please share your favorite kissing quotes with us by commenting on this post.

What makes a kiss memorable?

This is what one woman who responded to our online survey said about what makes a kiss memorable, not to mention pleasurable:

• Someone who takes his time and builds up to a climax.  Starts with slow kisses, soft kisses (no tongue) and then, as both people get more aroused, engages in full contact kissing.

Here’s another one:

• My best kiss ever was when my boyfriend would kiss me gently, and stroke my cheek gently with his hand.  It started out gently and then became more passionate.

And yet another:

• It was soft and sensual at first, then got more and more heat…at the end I was shaking it was that amazing!

These sound as though they’re comments from the same woman – but they’re not, and they’re also not unusual.  Most of the women we surveyed made similar comments when remembering their “best kiss” ever.

Here are some submissions from our visitors: 

~ The kiss between Kirsten Dunst and Tobey Maguire in the first “Spiderman” when he is upside down and she pulls up his mask and kisses him.  — Thank you, Malia for your contribution!  This one received a lot of votes – it’s one hot kiss!

~ Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams in “The Notebook” when they kiss in the rain.

~ Aaron Eckhardt and Catherine Zeta-Jones in No Reservations.”   We told you he was one great kisser – he gets another vote of approval.  Thanks, Joy, for your submission.

~ Nicole Kidman and Jude Law in “Cold Mountain.”   Several people commented on this one.

Feel free to share your favorites with us and comment on these. We never get tired of talking about kissing – and seeing actors and actresses doing what we’d like to be doing!

Famous movie kisses – there are many to choose from and we’ve selected some of our favorites. 

How about Jimmy Stewart and Donna Reed in “It’s a Wonderful Life,” when he realizes that he wants to be with Mary – even more than traveling and seeing the world?  They’re on the phone together and so close, then they look into each other’s eyes – and wow – there’s a kiss that will get your blood flowing. 

What a great first kiss.  Have you had one of those?  If you want to read real life stories of great kisses, get the book “The Truth About How to Kiss Women”  available here on the site.  Some women shared  kissing stories that will curl your toes!

In my opinion, one of the best kissing contemporary actors is Aaron Eckhart – and that’s probably because I’ve seen him doing some serious lip locking in a couple of films – and it always looks great – I don’t think you can learn to act like that – I think he’s a natural.  And would I want a kisser like that?  You bet!

So, check out Aaron Eckhart and Gwyneth Paltrow in “Possession,” a 2002 movie that probably went straight to DVD, but no matter.  This man definitely knows how to kiss a woman.

These are just a few that come to mind – but please let me know what you think are the best movies kisses – ever!

Here are more favorite movie kisses of mine.  Do we ever get tired of seeing people kissing?  Especially if they’re famous or in a movie or TV?  There’s just something that draws us to that act.  Aside from these favorite movie kisses below, we’ll talk more about the universal appeal of kissing – in photos, art and other media – in another post.

So – how about:  Madeleine Stowe and Daniel Day Lewis in “The Last of the Mohicans” where they forget the battles that are going on all around them – they’re in their own private world, and the kissing is steamy to say the least.

This is one of the most sensual make-out scenes in any movie – ever – as far as I’m concerned.

And seriously, Cary Grant kissing anyone!  He has a timelessness about him – his class and elegance stood out no matter what role he played.  And he knew the fundamentals of kissing – at least from what we can see on screen.

Ingrid Bergman kissing anyone: “A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.”  ~Ingrid Bergman

So who are your favorite people kissing?

Listen With Your Lips

Have you ever kissed someone and when you did a certain something or touched a particular area, your partner inhaled deeply or moaned or had some sort of positive physical reaction?  I remember kissing a man who had a particular affinity for the tongue kissing his lips, but there was one area at the corner of his mouth where the top and bottom lips met that would send him through the roof if I flicked my tongue there.  Even if I had read some kissing tips, I wouldn’t have known what he liked – I had to “listen.”  Kissing techniques only work if the person you’re kissing enjoys it.

Notice the responses of your kissing partner.   By the same token, hear if the person is not enjoying what you are doing.  If he or she is pulling away or stopping the kissing in mid-stream of what you thought was a great kiss, then that person is probably not enjoying it.   We don’t all like the same things.

Find out what to do if you are hearing those clues that indicate the person isn’t into the way you are kissing.

Kissing for Kissing’s Sake

According to a survey conducted by The University of Albany, “Males tended to kiss as a means to an end — to gain sexual favors or to reconcile.  In contrast, females kiss to establish and monitor the status of their relationship, and to assess and periodically update the level of commitment on the part of a partner.”  According to the researchers, “not only do females place more emphasis on kissing, but most would never engage in sex without kissing.  Females were more likely than males to insist on kissing before a sexual encounter, and more likely to emphasize the importance of kissing during and after sexual encounters as well.  By comparison, males said they would be happy to have sex without kissing, and far more males than females expressed a willingness to have sex with someone who was not a ‘good’ kisser.”

So, in the interest of making the kissing experience more pleasurable for both you and her, here’s what a fabulous kisser (who incorporates all the kissing tips we cover on these pages) has to say about the importance of kissing a woman and really “getting into it.”

“I have never felt close to a woman who could not move me with a kiss.  Why would I expect that it would be any different for her?  It isn’t – in fact, it is probably more important to a woman.  Taking tips from the lips of these women has made me a better kisser and has dispelled myths and misconceptions.  Do yourself a favor and dial it in.”

What’s your kissing IQ?  Do you think that you know what a woman wants better than she knows what she wants?  Think again bucko.  Truth is that you might be good – you might be a very good kisser.  Willing to test your kissing IQ?  What do women tell you about how to kiss a woman?  You can rely on your own experience, and of course, you should.  But do you really want to learn how to kiss a woman?

Remember the short, balding guy who was shopping with that great looking, tall blond with more sex appeal than you could ignore?  Sure you do; we have all been there.  So what did the short, ordinary looking guy have going for him that attracted such a knockout?  Well, we could speculate, but that would be ego talking.  We have all been the victims of our own egos.  She didn’t seem interested in you, did she?  Not a response that you were accustomed to. 

Put speculation aside for a minute.  From the mouths of women, possibly that very woman, come suggestions – maybe answers.  At the end of the day, women evaluate you on several levels.  If you are hung up on having a fast car, disposable income and a large, well let’s say ego, you are missing the boat.  It will sail without you.  I’m suggesting to you that among other things, that guy was a great kisser.  I’m suggesting that he knew how to connect with a woman when all five of their senses converged at the same place at the same time.

You like sports analogies?  If you do, then you know that you cannot get around the diamond without going through first base.  For a woman, and if you are lucky, for you as well, extraordinary kissing gets you to first base and even home.  Determine your own goals, mine is to find a woman with whom I can relate…a woman who can move me with a gentle kiss…a woman who can satisfy me with flashing eyes and soft lips.  If she can do that, she can do anything.  If she can do that, I’m all in.

I’m going to do you a favor and share something recently picked up on.  There is a lot of kissing and relationship advice out there.  No, not offering you that.  What I am offering you is a window into what women have to say about how they want to be kissed and what it does for them.  They will tell you how and why – the rest is up to you.

 An online survey and the book that followed reports the results of over 300 women relating their experiences with the macho kisser and the meek kisser.  Think you know it all?  You don’t?  If you improve your kissing IQ, you will improve your relationship IQ.  Not interested in a relationship?  OK, you are interested in women are you not?  If you don’t listen in, you will just be making it easier for those of us who do.

Contributed by a frequent visitor to our site.

Here’s our second installment of kiss tips to follow in order to avoid a bad kissing experience.  Learn to kiss like this and you’ll never be shut out again.

Slow Down

Kisses should be treasured – take your time and enjoy the experience – make it last.  Take the time to realize what you are feeling.  If you just kiss without really feeling it, you lose out on one of life’s greatest sensuous experiences – certainly one of the most enjoyable ways to inspire your partner’s and your own arousal.  Focus on the sensation of your lips making contact with your partner’s lips.  Notice the texture of the skin around the lips and the different responses to kissing different areas of the lips and mouth.  If you want to let your partner know that you care about them and are “into” them, then take it slow and easy.  You can build up to a passionate tempo later if it’s appropriate, but don’t start off as if it’s a race to get some place.  Enjoy kissing for kissing’s sake.  Pace yourself!  Be in the Moment

Doubting us?  Think these kissing tips won’t work?  Next time, slow down…then come back and share.

Learn to Kiss like a Pro

Is there such a thing as a Great Kissing Gene?

Luckily, No!  Follow these kiss tips and it will guarantee your pleasure and enjoyment of every kiss – whether novice or expert!  This is the first in a series of kiss tips that will have your kissing partner asking for more.

Fresh Breath

Warning:   after a bad-breath first date kiss, many a woman/man has decided “no second date!”  One area of the kissing experience that may sometimes be overlooked is whether your breath is fresh.  Sometimes you just aren’t thinking about that if you are eager to kiss someone.  Often we can’t be sure if our breath smells okay – sometimes, even if we haven’t eaten recently or had any of the no-no’s like garlic or onions – and maybe even if we’ve just recently brushed our teeth, we may still have halitosis.   Sometimes the culprit can be dry mouth, a major cause of bad breath, or a coated tongue, or perhaps you have nasal drainage, etc.  It’s not your fault – but be aware.  Keep a toothbrush on hand!  A great way to rest assured that you will always have fresh breath is to practice good hygiene.  Learn more here.  You wouldn’t want to be on the receiving end of someone with bad breath kissing you, so make it a priority to keep your mouth and breath fresh and clean so that your kissing experience is a positive one.   Note:  bad breath can be caused by certain medical conditions!  Click here to learn more. 

Take it from us, fresh breath is one of the non-negotiable kissing tips.