Archive for October, 2009

Kissingandmore.com’s focus right now is on kissing.  We’ll get into other dating and relationship topics as we grow, but for now we love to talk, hear and think about kissing.   And Michael Webb, the World’s Most Romantic Man, has got some great kiss tips.  We’re reprinting a tip straight from Michael.  It’s a great one and the women surveyed for my book, The Truth About How to Kiss Women, talked about special places they love to have kissed so he’s right on target with this kiss tip.

Kiss of the Week
by Michael Webb

There is a little game I play with my wife Athena.  I call it the
kiss of the week.  Each Sunday I designate a certain place to be the
“kissing spot” and it is there that I softly plant my lips when
I want to let her know I appreciate something she has done or to
simply let her know that I love her.

I once heard an elderly man describe the success of his 75 year
blissful marriage to his wife.  He attributed it to the fact that he
told his wife daily that he loved her and kissed her at least twice
each day.  I aim to follow his example and by having the kissing
spot of the week, it helps me to make certain I am not forgetting
to give my wife the daily kisses she deserves so much.

Some of the kissing spots have been: behind her left ear, between
her eyes, the soft spot in the middle of her cheek and on the nape
of her neck.  It’s fun trying to decide where the next “spot” will
be and my wife looks forward to the new kiss at the beginning of
the week.  I do not forego kissing her on the lips, but I do make a
conscious effort to kiss her often on the “kissing spot.”  If your
sweetheart hasn’t been getting the kisses he or she deserves or
you are looking for a way to be a more creative kisser, perhaps you
too can implement the Kiss Of The Week into your romantic lifestyle.

And click here for some more great romantic tips…

Since 75% of women in our survey think men don’t know what women want in a kiss, and please – DON’T ASK – what’s a guy to do?   It goes back to communication and reading body language.   If you think things are going well and you want to try for a kiss, go slowly and softly at first.  If she’s all about it, then bingo – go for it.   But follow her lead.   She is the one who will either accept your kisses and ask for more if she likes them – or slam the door in your face.   Guess who’s in control?

Unfortunately, men, that’s the way things shake out.   It’s not a matter of power or even control, but it is how the world works.  You can’t force a woman to kiss the way you want her to kiss.  You can follow her lead, and if you care enough about her, then introduce whatever style it is that floats your boat!   It’s all how you approach the subject – and her. 

Remember this:  Women Do Love Kissing.  So, provided you’re not suggesting something that would really turn her off, and everyone has different likes and dislikes, she may be amenable to your idea.

Do you think most men KNOW what women want in a kiss?

Survey Factoid:  Eighty percent of women say they enjoy a full contact kiss where tongues and lips are in contact with each other.  What does this mean?  Well, it means you’re not focusing on just the lips or just the tongue – you are mixing things up.  We have very high amounts of nerve endings on our lips, so use them.  This will titillate your partner and make her want more, so don’t forget the lips.  But introducing the tongue into the kiss is appropriate, if you don’t just thrust in and out and forget about her lips.  It’s said that variety is the spice of life – and in kissing that is the case.

What’s one of the most important tips for good French Kissing? According to our survey it’s having fresh breath. You’re going to be very up close and personal and fresh breath and a clean mouth, tongue and teeth are imperative. There’s nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath, causing an otherwise pleasurable experience to turn sour. If you’re going to be kissing your date or significant other – do her and yourself a favor – pay attention to your oral hygiene.

Our survey showed that only 11% of women would continue kissing a man with bad breath. A large portion of respondents said they would continue the kiss but try to avoid any further kissing. Eighteen percent of women said they would either try and find a way to end the kiss OR the date. Find out about how to prevent bad breath here.

One of the first questions we asked women in our survey was how important kissing is to them – especially when they’re in a relationship.  If there was ever any doubt how much women love kissing – the responses put that question to rest. 

• 98% of women say that kissing in a relationship is important or very important. Women like kissing – in and out of bed. It makes them feel closer to their partner. One woman stated, “kissing is a way of showing affection but also opens the door to more intimate acts.” So – if you want sex – kissing is the way there. And basically, if you’re not kissing her she probably won’t be hanging in there for long. Our results overwhelmingly support that women want kissing and lots of it.

Since a kiss may be a key factor in a woman’s decision on whether to continue in a relationship, remember this and keep the kisses coming. Not just a quick peck hello or good-bye – but serious, one on one time kissing where you are looking into her eyes and making a real connection.

This tip and the statistics behind it will serve you well.  Over 300 women responded to the question of what sort of “first kiss” they wanted.

• 52% of women say they want a soft, sensual kiss with no tongue when on a first date.  What does this say about women?  Well, that they want to take things slowly, get to know you and feel more comfortable with you before going for a more passionate kiss with tongue.  Aggressive kissing on a first date, according to our survey, will get you nowhere fast, except maybe a drive home alone!

Read her body language.  If you are on a first date with a woman, you must read her body language if you have any thoughts of kissing her.  Unless you want to just go for it and forget any chance of ever seeing her again.  Is she looking you in the eyes?  Is she smiling at you and possibly giving you an occasional touch on the arm or leg (if you’re sitting across from each other)?  These are indications that she is having fun and is “into” you – and that she will probably be receptive to a kiss.

Kissing is important – very important to women.  Ninety-eight percent of women polled in an online survey reported this.  The first question is when should you kiss a woman?  Well, if you’re in a relationship with her, every chance you get.

Women say that kissing makes them feel closer to their partner.  Such a little thing – and it means so much.  One of our men respondents said this:  “With the right kiss, I can calm her down, shut her up, or turn her on.  It really depends on what I need.  I know it sounds cruel, and I don’t make it out to be that way.”  So, kissing is really powerful, isn’t it?  This guy is probably right and we hope his motives are all good, but it’s true that a man really does have the ability to create the mood he desires – with a kiss. 

Where do you kiss a woman?  Wherever she wants!  Women responded that they like kisses all over their face and body, little pecks, soft and sweet kisses on the neck.  A gentle kiss on the eyelids or forehead.  And don’t forget the body!  So, with most women, you can kiss her anywhere and she’ll probably like it.  But if you’re in a new relationship and trying something new, watch for the body language.  If she stiffens or pulls away, that’s probably not a good place.  Ask her if you think she’s gotten a negative reaction.  You don’t want to assume, and you don’t want to offend.

Why kiss a woman?  Back to the first sentence of this article.  Because it’s important to a woman, especially in a relationship.  If she’s dating, it’s her gauge of how the man is thinking or feeling about her – and in a relationship, it’s because for her, it strengthens the bond she has with you.

So keep kissing your woman.  The rewards will be great.

Kissing is universal and kisses, or perhaps just a special kiss, have been captured in photos, and painted by artists over the centuries. 

Three that come to mind immediately are Auguste Rodin’s “The Kiss,” Gustav Klimt’s “The Kiss,” and Alfred Eistenstadt’s famous photo on V-J Day of the sailor and nurse. 

Auguste Rodin

Here they are and I don’t know about you, but they take my breath away.  I saw the photo of the V-J Day kiss when I was a little girl and it’s been my favorite photo ever since.  I have a large framed copy in my office.  It grabs me very time I look up and view it.

Klimt

Just viewed a video on BetterTV.com with the fashion director of Men’s Health Magazine.  He reported on a study about kissing that revealed very similar results to what we did in our survey of over 300 women.  

There are common themes when interviewing women about how they feel about kissing.   How what you do will make her melt in your arms – when and how to kiss her - kisses she’ll remember. 

These responses are valuable information and the article in Men’s Health Magazine just confirms what we found.   Read our other tips here and in our book, “The Truth About How to Kiss Women.”