Archive for February, 2010

Would you stop dating a man because he is, in your opinion, a bad kisser?

 This was one of the questions in our online survey that over 340 women completed.  The difference in the percentage of women who said they would stop dating a bad kisser and those who said they wouldn’t, isn’t wide (see below), but the comments from the women who would are quite revealing. 

Yes                           52%

No                            48%

 What women say about Question 15:

•  Bet your ass!  I don’t care how great the guy is, if he can’t kiss then he’s got to go.
•  He can be trained.
•  I can always give him a lesson or two.
•  Not right away…we can all learn.
• It sounds bad but yes, because that would turn me off.
•  But if he is open to learning, I would teach him what I want.
•  I would usually.  My husband is a terrible kisser; however, I looked past it hoping he could learn.  His kissing has not changed in 5 years.  I need a class for him.
•  If he doesn’t have it there, he doesn’t have it!
•  I tried to stay with a guy who was a bad kisser but it never improved.

Because I am with a man who is a great kisser and initially let me take the lead (smart man), I actually feel very bad for women who are with men who either don’t care about kissing or aren’t very good at it.  Of course, what constitutes good or bad varies from person to person, but if you’re with someone you feel is not a good kisser, then my advice is to take some action. 

And I don’t mean “kick him to the curb” as a friend of mine says.   Try and teach him how to kiss the way you enjoy it.  I’ll bet most men would listen and try to change whatever it is that is either offensive or not to your liking.   If he doesn’t or is unwilling to at least listen, then there are bigger issues than kissing – and they’ll probably show up at some point. 

If you’re with someone and care about them, then take some action – you deserve it. 

Here’s to great kissing!

A Brief History Of Valentine’s Day

The celebration of Valentine’s Day owes its existence to an ancient pagan ritual. With the spread of Christianity, priests had numerous heathen practices to deal with among their constituents. One of these ancient rituals was the Feast of Lubercus which they changed to St. Valentine’s Day changing the pagan practice of drawing girl’s names with drawing Saints’ names. Young people would draw the names from an urn or box and then were expected to emulate that Saint’s life during the following year. Unfortunately, by the 14th century they had reverted back to drawing girl’s names, in the 16th century they tried again to have saintly valentines but it failed.

According to lore there were seven men named Valentine honored with feasts on February 14th. One of these men named Valentine was a priest during the reign of Emperor Claudius. Valentine was honored by the young and old, rich and poor, with people of all walks of life attending his services. At this time Emperor Claudius was heavily recruiting men to serve as soldiers for his wars without much success. The men preferred not to leave their wives, families and sweethearts to fight in foreign lands. Claudius became angry and declared that no more marriages could be performed and all engagements were cancelled.

According to the story, Valentine thought this practice to be unfair and secretly married several couples. When Claudius found out, he had Valentine put in prison where he died. Friends and patrons of the priest retrieved his body and buried it in a churchyard in Rome.

Another version of the story tells that St. Valentine was jailed for helping Christians. According to this story, while Valentine was in prison he cured a jailer’s daughter of blindness. Claudius became enraged and had Valentine clubbed and beheaded on February 14, 269 A.D.

 Yet another story claims that Valentine fell in love with the jailer’s daughter and wrote her letters that were signed “From your Valentine.”

All of the Valentines in time evolved into one. In 496 Pope Gelasius declared the day a holiday in honor of St. Valentine. Through the centuries the Christian holiday became a time to exchange love messages and St. Valentine became the patron saint of lovers. Lovers’ quarrels come under his jurisdiction and, naturally, he is the patron saint of engaged couples and of anyone wishing to marry.

About the Guest Author

Gregg Hall is a business consultant and author for many online and offline businesses and lives in Navarre Florida with his 16 year old son. For a unique love gift go to http://www.bottledlovemessage.com

This is an offering from a reader and I think he’s got something here.  Read on for his idea of a sensual kiss.

Put your hands in her hair.  That’s right, if it’s time for that special kiss, the one that will speed up your heart rate and tune you both in, then it’s time to put our hands in the hair. 

Take her face in both hands (around her cheek and lower jaw) and look directly into her eyes…you want that visual contact – she does too.   Let your hands glide slowly up her jaw line and let your fingers slightly interlace with her hair.  If her hair is short, move up a bit.  You want your hands gently caressing her neck from just below to just above the hairline.  If she is into you, this will make her tingle and heighten the anticipation.   There are some women that may not like having your hands in their hair.  You’ll know soon enough and you can adjust.   For now let’s focus on the event..you’ve got her. 

 Don’t rush into it;  move slowly so that your senses engage and provide your brains with the input from the touch, sent, sound and sight of each other.  Kiss her first on the cheek or lightly on the lips…let them linger…let her body language guide you.  From there you are on your own; however, we’ll be back with more suggestions soon.

 Repeat as often as necessary!

In every relationship at least one of the partners likes to fanaticize, to excite their imagination.  Who knows, it could be both of you.  Want to know what fuels fantasy?  Reality fuels fantasy, otherwise it is called dreaming.  Fantasy is like hope in a way; it is a desire that sees the possibility of becoming real.  When lips, mouths and senses meet, fuel for a “sexplosive” relationship is created.  Think of it like using different spices in your cooking.  Do you cook up the same old meal daily?  OK, maybe you do, but that’s the point – you don’t have to.  Cook up something that uses the same basic ingredients that changes the dynamics of the meal completely.  Play to the fantasy in life, invite your partner in and savor the experience.  You will both want more.  When do you start?  You start now!  If you’re a planner, plan it – and perform your plan.  If you are impromptu, let your spontaneity out.  What’s the best thing that can happen?  Well, that’s the idea isn’t it?  Find out!  Don’t dream about it, do it.  The first opportunity you have, let it out.  Planned or spun up on the moment, let it go.  This is supposed to be fun stuff, isn’t it?  We all discuss it, complain about it and on occasion want to tell the world how terrific it is.  Go ahead, sexplode with your partner and don’t forget to see what’s available on the spice rack.

For some great ideas for the bedroom, check out what Michael Webb has for you – 100 Sex Games.  Don’t get boring in the bedroom – click the link below and let the fun begin!