Bad Kissing – Why Accept It?

Would you stop dating a man because he is, in your opinion, a bad kisser?

 This was one of the questions in our online survey that over 340 women completed.  The difference in the percentage of women who said they would stop dating a bad kisser and those who said they wouldn’t, isn’t wide (see below), but the comments from the women who would are quite revealing. 

Yes                           52%

No                            48%

 What women say about Question 15:

•  Bet your ass!  I don’t care how great the guy is, if he can’t kiss then he’s got to go.
•  He can be trained.
•  I can always give him a lesson or two.
•  Not right away…we can all learn.
• It sounds bad but yes, because that would turn me off.
•  But if he is open to learning, I would teach him what I want.
•  I would usually.  My husband is a terrible kisser; however, I looked past it hoping he could learn.  His kissing has not changed in 5 years.  I need a class for him.
•  If he doesn’t have it there, he doesn’t have it!
•  I tried to stay with a guy who was a bad kisser but it never improved.

Because I am with a man who is a great kisser and initially let me take the lead (smart man), I actually feel very bad for women who are with men who either don’t care about kissing or aren’t very good at it.  Of course, what constitutes good or bad varies from person to person, but if you’re with someone you feel is not a good kisser, then my advice is to take some action. 

And I don’t mean “kick him to the curb” as a friend of mine says.   Try and teach him how to kiss the way you enjoy it.  I’ll bet most men would listen and try to change whatever it is that is either offensive or not to your liking.   If he doesn’t or is unwilling to at least listen, then there are bigger issues than kissing – and they’ll probably show up at some point. 

If you’re with someone and care about them, then take some action – you deserve it. 

Here’s to great kissing!