Kiss Tips

Would you stop dating a man because he is, in your opinion, a bad kisser?

 This was one of the questions in our online survey that over 340 women completed.  The difference in the percentage of women who said they would stop dating a bad kisser and those who said they wouldn’t, isn’t wide (see below), but the comments from the women who would are quite revealing. 

Yes                           52%

No                            48%

 What women say about Question 15:

•  Bet your ass!  I don’t care how great the guy is, if he can’t kiss then he’s got to go.
•  He can be trained.
•  I can always give him a lesson or two.
•  Not right away…we can all learn.
• It sounds bad but yes, because that would turn me off.
•  But if he is open to learning, I would teach him what I want.
•  I would usually.  My husband is a terrible kisser; however, I looked past it hoping he could learn.  His kissing has not changed in 5 years.  I need a class for him.
•  If he doesn’t have it there, he doesn’t have it!
•  I tried to stay with a guy who was a bad kisser but it never improved.

Because I am with a man who is a great kisser and initially let me take the lead (smart man), I actually feel very bad for women who are with men who either don’t care about kissing or aren’t very good at it.  Of course, what constitutes good or bad varies from person to person, but if you’re with someone you feel is not a good kisser, then my advice is to take some action. 

And I don’t mean “kick him to the curb” as a friend of mine says.   Try and teach him how to kiss the way you enjoy it.  I’ll bet most men would listen and try to change whatever it is that is either offensive or not to your liking.   If he doesn’t or is unwilling to at least listen, then there are bigger issues than kissing – and they’ll probably show up at some point. 

If you’re with someone and care about them, then take some action – you deserve it. 

Here’s to great kissing!

This is an offering from a reader and I think he’s got something here.  Read on for his idea of a sensual kiss.

Put your hands in her hair.  That’s right, if it’s time for that special kiss, the one that will speed up your heart rate and tune you both in, then it’s time to put our hands in the hair. 

Take her face in both hands (around her cheek and lower jaw) and look directly into her eyes…you want that visual contact – she does too.   Let your hands glide slowly up her jaw line and let your fingers slightly interlace with her hair.  If her hair is short, move up a bit.  You want your hands gently caressing her neck from just below to just above the hairline.  If she is into you, this will make her tingle and heighten the anticipation.   There are some women that may not like having your hands in their hair.  You’ll know soon enough and you can adjust.   For now let’s focus on the event..you’ve got her. 

 Don’t rush into it;  move slowly so that your senses engage and provide your brains with the input from the touch, sent, sound and sight of each other.  Kiss her first on the cheek or lightly on the lips…let them linger…let her body language guide you.  From there you are on your own; however, we’ll be back with more suggestions soon.

 Repeat as often as necessary!

I don’t really think anyone is a kissing dummy – maybe just uneducated or unpracticed. The fun is in the practice, that’s for sure.

If you’re not confident in your kissing ability or if you just haven’t practiced enough, we recently instituted a weekly kiss tip newsletter. It’s free and you can sign up on the site – just go to the home page and enter your information. Once you agree to let us send you information, every week you’ll receive a new kiss tip. It’s sure to provide some valuable information and perhaps a new perspective.

We hope you’ll join – and here’s to some great kissing!

Good question.  More than 300 women completed our online survey about kissing.  Kissing is important to women and they want that connection if they’re interested in a guy.  Here’s what they said in response to the question “Do you think more men CARE what women want when they are kissing?”

•  Well, I think they care but I think the first time they kiss they are kissing for their own desires and not the woman’s.
•  Not when you’re initially dating.  I think as the relationship [grows] depends [sic] he’ll care more about pleasing you.
•  Whether they realize it or not, I think they react to what women enjoy and care that they show enjoyment.
•  Most men want to make the woman feel good.
•  Who doesn’t want to be considered a great kisser?
•  I think a lot of guys think they have some good technique but no one ever told them they are bad kissers.

To learn more of what women think about kissing download this.

Here’s an interesting statistic from a study conducted during the 1980’s.

Men who kiss their wives (or significant other) before leaving for work:

• live longer
• get into fewer car accidents
• and have a higher income than married men who don’t!

So, you’ve got some reasons on several different levels to kiss your woman more frequently. 

And another note:  if you increase the kissing, you’ll get more sex.  Duh!

Kissingandmore.com’s focus right now is on kissing.  We’ll get into other dating and relationship topics as we grow, but for now we love to talk, hear and think about kissing.   And Michael Webb, the World’s Most Romantic Man, has got some great kiss tips.  We’re reprinting a tip straight from Michael.  It’s a great one and the women surveyed for my book, The Truth About How to Kiss Women, talked about special places they love to have kissed so he’s right on target with this kiss tip.

Kiss of the Week
by Michael Webb

There is a little game I play with my wife Athena.  I call it the
kiss of the week.  Each Sunday I designate a certain place to be the
“kissing spot” and it is there that I softly plant my lips when
I want to let her know I appreciate something she has done or to
simply let her know that I love her.

I once heard an elderly man describe the success of his 75 year
blissful marriage to his wife.  He attributed it to the fact that he
told his wife daily that he loved her and kissed her at least twice
each day.  I aim to follow his example and by having the kissing
spot of the week, it helps me to make certain I am not forgetting
to give my wife the daily kisses she deserves so much.

Some of the kissing spots have been: behind her left ear, between
her eyes, the soft spot in the middle of her cheek and on the nape
of her neck.  It’s fun trying to decide where the next “spot” will
be and my wife looks forward to the new kiss at the beginning of
the week.  I do not forego kissing her on the lips, but I do make a
conscious effort to kiss her often on the “kissing spot.”  If your
sweetheart hasn’t been getting the kisses he or she deserves or
you are looking for a way to be a more creative kisser, perhaps you
too can implement the Kiss Of The Week into your romantic lifestyle.

And click here for some more great romantic tips…

Since 75% of women in our survey think men don’t know what women want in a kiss, and please – DON’T ASK – what’s a guy to do?   It goes back to communication and reading body language.   If you think things are going well and you want to try for a kiss, go slowly and softly at first.  If she’s all about it, then bingo – go for it.   But follow her lead.   She is the one who will either accept your kisses and ask for more if she likes them – or slam the door in your face.   Guess who’s in control?

Unfortunately, men, that’s the way things shake out.   It’s not a matter of power or even control, but it is how the world works.  You can’t force a woman to kiss the way you want her to kiss.  You can follow her lead, and if you care enough about her, then introduce whatever style it is that floats your boat!   It’s all how you approach the subject – and her. 

Remember this:  Women Do Love Kissing.  So, provided you’re not suggesting something that would really turn her off, and everyone has different likes and dislikes, she may be amenable to your idea.

Do you think most men KNOW what women want in a kiss?

Survey Factoid:  Eighty percent of women say they enjoy a full contact kiss where tongues and lips are in contact with each other.  What does this mean?  Well, it means you’re not focusing on just the lips or just the tongue – you are mixing things up.  We have very high amounts of nerve endings on our lips, so use them.  This will titillate your partner and make her want more, so don’t forget the lips.  But introducing the tongue into the kiss is appropriate, if you don’t just thrust in and out and forget about her lips.  It’s said that variety is the spice of life – and in kissing that is the case.

What’s one of the most important tips for good French Kissing? According to our survey it’s having fresh breath. You’re going to be very up close and personal and fresh breath and a clean mouth, tongue and teeth are imperative. There’s nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath, causing an otherwise pleasurable experience to turn sour. If you’re going to be kissing your date or significant other – do her and yourself a favor – pay attention to your oral hygiene.

Our survey showed that only 11% of women would continue kissing a man with bad breath. A large portion of respondents said they would continue the kiss but try to avoid any further kissing. Eighteen percent of women said they would either try and find a way to end the kiss OR the date. Find out about how to prevent bad breath here.

One of the first questions we asked women in our survey was how important kissing is to them – especially when they’re in a relationship.  If there was ever any doubt how much women love kissing – the responses put that question to rest. 

• 98% of women say that kissing in a relationship is important or very important. Women like kissing – in and out of bed. It makes them feel closer to their partner. One woman stated, “kissing is a way of showing affection but also opens the door to more intimate acts.” So – if you want sex – kissing is the way there. And basically, if you’re not kissing her she probably won’t be hanging in there for long. Our results overwhelmingly support that women want kissing and lots of it.

Since a kiss may be a key factor in a woman’s decision on whether to continue in a relationship, remember this and keep the kisses coming. Not just a quick peck hello or good-bye – but serious, one on one time kissing where you are looking into her eyes and making a real connection.